You're Not Alone.
(And neither is your friend.)
A simple guide for teens on supporting a friend who might be struggling with suicidal thoughts.
It's Scary. We Get It.
Seeing a friend in pain is one of the hardest things in the world. It’s even harder when you don’t know what to do, and you're terrified of doing the wrong thing.
You might be thinking: "If I tell their parents, my friend will hate me," or "What if their family gets mad or doesn't believe me?"
This is the part that everyone gets stuck on.
You might even go to a teacher or counselor, and they'll tell you that you *still* need to get the parents involved. It can feel like a loop you can't escape. But here's the most important truth:
It is better to have a friend who is alive and upset with you than to stay silent.
This is not a secret you can keep. This is a medical emergency, and it's too big for one person to handle alone. You are not betraying your friend by getting help—you are saving them.
What to Do Right Now
Listen & Ask Directly
If you feel safe, talk to your friend. Listen to them without judgment. Don't try to "fix" it. Just be there. It's okay to ask directly: "Are you thinking about suicide?" Asking the question does *not* put the idea in their head. It shows you care and are willing to talk about it.
Find Your "Help-Person"
You cannot do this alone. You need to tell an adult. But it doesn't have to be their parent, at least not at first. Find an adult *you* trust.
- Your Parents/Guardians: They can help you make the next call and support you.
- A School Counselor or Trusted Teacher: This is their job. They are trained for this. They can be the one to contact your friend's family. Let them be the "bad guy" so you don't have to be.
- A Coach, Religious Leader, or older relative.
Use a Crisis Line (For Them or You)
These numbers are for *you* too. You can call or text to get advice on how to start this conversation. You can even text them while sitting next to your friend.
Immediate Help
These are free, 24/7, and confidential.
What If *You* Are the One Struggling?
Everything here applies to you, too. Your feelings are valid, and you are not a burden. You deserve to feel safe and supported.
Please, use the numbers above. Talk to an adult you trust. There is hope, and there is help waiting for you right now.